Relatives tell MPs of ‘soul-destroying’ separation from loved ones in care

Campaigners accused the care minister of failing to listen after an emotional two-hour meeting in Westminster.

09 March 2022

Campaigners have accused the care minister of failing to listen after she attended the tail end of a meeting where families of care home residents shared the “soul-destroying” separation they experienced during the pandemic.

Audible shock and gasps filled the room as relatives spoke of being unable to say goodbye to their elderly parents in their final hours, the humiliation of only being allowed window visits and how their loved ones had lost the ability to speak after being isolated for so long.

One campaigner said she feels “haunted” after being diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder when her father died and she could not visit.

Others said they are still beset by nonsensical rules almost two years on from the first lockdown, with the husband of a woman with early-onset dementia telling MPs he is not allowed to remove his mask, eat or drink or use the toilet when visiting her room.

People in care
Campaigners have called for action from the Governnment (Stefan Rousseau/PA)

Campaigners and MPs are calling for a new legal right which would enable people in health and care settings to maintain contact with at least one loved one providing essential support.

This would give people the right to unrestricted contact with a “care supporter” in a bid to make sure the isolation experienced by some in care during the pandemic is “never again” felt.

Six people told their stories at the emotional two-hour event in Westminster on Wednesday, which was attended by politicians from across the political spectrum.

Campaigners said it was “insulting” that care minister Gillian Keegan only attended for the final 20 minutes.

Ms Keegan did not arrive in time to hear the testimonies but repeatedly assured attendees “I completely get it” and said the Government is exploring options.

She also said legislation could take time and that the Government is currently looking at its guidance, which campaigners say is not protecting people because it is being ignored by some care homes.

Actress Ruthie Henshall, whose mother Gloria died in a care home in May 2021, broke down in tears after the meeting.

She said she feels “very, very upset and really frustrated” and that it was “absolutely no good whatsoever” for the minister to arrive near the end of the meeting.

She told the PA news agency: “She’s not listening.

“She’s been very, very quick to talk and to talk about what she can’t do and what she’s not allowed to do. She is not talking about what is possible to do.

“She’s not listening and I’m really quite devastated by this.

People in care
The event was organised by the Relatives and Residents Association, John’s Campaign and Rights for Residents (Stefan Rousseau/PA)

“I’m actually devastated by what happened when she walked in. It was like the compassion was sucked out of the room.”

She called on the minister to “do something”, adding: “She does have the power, and they can do it quickly, and if they don’t do it quickly then more and more people are going to die.”

The event was organised by the charity the Relatives & Residents Association, and the groups John’s Campaign and Rights for Residents.

It was chaired by Conservative MP Tracey Crouch and Labour’s Dan Carden.

Several MPs commented on the powerful testimonies, including Mr Carden who said there was “real shock” at some of the stories heard.

He told Ms Keegan: “My view is we’ve slept-walked into a position where families are left powerless over seeing their loved ones.

“I don’t think that’s what Parliament wants, I can’t believe it’s what the Government wants, and the current guidance that’s in place is not satisfactory…it’s a postcode lottery and it leaves the power in the hands of the individual establishment.”

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